When Tom was 3 years old, he was tested and eventually got into school half days. Clare was a little concerned that Tom was getting to go to school and she wasn't. Try explaining to a not-quite-five year old why she isn't in school when her younger brother is.
Tom spent a lot of years in school. From age three until age 21. Now he spends a lot of his time surfing the internet, watching TV, playing the Wii and doing whatever chores I have for him, plus going to the chip mill to work with me one day each week. He's also in a Special Olympics group which he absolutely loves. He qualified for state last year in all three sports he competed in. That's quite an accomplishment!
As for me, being a parent of small children wasn't always easy and some days were definitely easier or harder than others. Tom made things a lot more difficult sometimes, but the blessings attached to having him in our family were so overwhelming. I had my children because I wanted them. They weren't thrust upon me against my will. It was my choice to accept these spirits into my family. I learned a very valuable lesson from my sister, Tina. These children are mine and I can enjoy them or I can grumble and complain about how much work they are. I chose to enjoy them and it has been a wonderful experience because of the right attitude.
Tom will always be living in our home. He is very possessive of things that belong to him. He doesn't like babies or even small children until they are about five years old. He has a very strong testimony of the restored gospel of Jesus Christ. He is truly a spiritual giant. I look forward to the day when I can meet him in the next life when his "limitations" will be removed. Until then, it is my pleasure to call him my son.